WHAT CHRISTIANS BELIEVE

THE FUNDAMENTALS OF CHRISTIANITY OR WHAT CHRISTIANS BELIEVE- RCCG JESUS HOUSE, JERICHO, COTONOU

12/10/15

 

Greet and sing.

Texts: Acts 11:25-30; Eph 2:11-22

special reference to, Matt 16:15-19;

Act 11:26 And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch.

 

Doctrines: faith, christology, christian living, Church

 

Fundamentals is defined by Webster Dictionary as, : forming or relating to the most important part of something: of or relating to the basic structure or function of something

Full Definition1 a : serving as an original or generating source : primary <a discovery fundamental to modern computers>

1. Definition.

What is Christianity? Faith in Christ as Saviour. Monotheism. Our faith; what we believe. The Niceness creed. The first ecumenical council

Excursus on the Word Homousios. [52] The Fathers of the Council at Nice were at one time ready to accede to the request of some of the bishops and use only scriptural expressions in their definitions. But, after several attempts, they found that all these were capable of being explained away….

…Just what the Council intended this expression to mean is set forth by St. Athanasius as follows: “That the Son is not only like to the Father, but that, as his image, he is the same as the Father; that he is of the Father; and that the resemblance of the Son to the Father, and his immutability, are different from ours: for in us they are something acquired, and arise from our fulfilling the divine commands. Moreover, they wished to indicate by this that his generation is different from that of human nature; that they are something acquired, and arise from our fulfilling the divine commands. Moreover, they wished to indicate by this that his generation is different from that of human nature; that the Son is not only like to the Father, but inseparable from the substance of the Father, that he and the Father are one and the same, as the Son himself said: The Logos is always in the Father, and, the Father always in the Logos,’ as the sun and its splendour are inseparable.” [53

The topic is, THE FUNDAMENTALS OF CHRISTIANITY OR WHAT CHRISTIANS BELIEVE-

IMAGES OF THE CHRISTIAN OR THE CHURCH IN THE BIBLE

Body of Christ,Rom 12:5 So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another. Body is living, grows and needs food,meditation… Church you must have social responsibilities. Hence Jas 2:14 What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?Jas 2:15 If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food,,Jas 2:16 And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?Temple,1Co 12:12 For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ.1Co 12:13 For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.

Plantation of God, Isa 61:3 To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

Fig tree, peculiar tree, Mark 11:12-14

Peculiar nation,1Pe 2:9 But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:

Ye are the salt of the earth: Matt. 5:13..but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men. SALT IS REFINED. AND YOU MUST BE!SALT PRESERVES AND GIVES FLAVOUR, ALSO DESTROYS CORRUPTION OR WORMS.

You must shine, give exampleshining as light in the midst,Mat 5:13 Mat 5:14 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.

Be visible, take a position of maximum advantage to benefit maximum people Mat 5:15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.

Mat 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

The people of God, the Church. It is:

One. I.e. , unity, one body…Joh 10:16 And other sheep I have, which are not of this fold: them also I must bring, and they shall hear my voice; and there shall be one fold, and one shepherd

Holy…Hab 2:20 But the LORD is in his holy temple: let all the earth keep silence before him.

Catholic. Not Roman Catholic but universal.Eph 4:5 One Lord, one faith, one baptism,

Disciples…followers of Christ, learners, scholars

Apostolic…sent forth Eph 2:19 Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellowcitizens with the saints, and of the household of God;Eph 2:20 And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief corner stone;

Apostles , Matt 10:40

Jesus is central to Christianity. Who is Jesus.nHe. Us the fundamental presentation of thus one nan, Jesus ..Act 4:10 Be it known unto you all, and to all the people of Israel, that by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom ye crucified, whom God raised from the dead, even by him doth this man stand here before you whole.Act 4:11 This is the stone which was set at nought of you builders, which is become the head of the corner.

The identity of Jesus is first…secondly is Christian life,more experience..we got the word , how to talk then give us our experience if vulture but bring burn again is tge beginning

He is homohoussio with the Father…Without Him you can do nothing. Jhn 15:5

It is a walk with God…no room for three, jesuscand you. “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome.”–1 John 5:3, ESV. How do we demonstrate our love for God? We do so by being obedient. We need to better understand the words of the Apostle John, as he explains to us what the love of God really means.

Walk in the spirit.

When, where and how were Christians defined?

They were like Christ in their attitude and acts..see Acts 11:26

Assembly,i.e., those called,they heard God, are separated. Remember Abraham was called alone.

Obedience to God… Faith is conveyed on the platform of Obedience…

Emulating Christ…Act 4:13 Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had

It could be persecution as in:

Act 11:25 Then departed Barnabas to Tarsus, for to seek Saul WHO WAS IN REFUGE IN HUS HOME TOWN AWAY FROM THE GRECIANS :Act 9:29 And he spake boldly in the name of the Lord Jesus, and disputed against the Grecians: but they went about to slay him

 

 

THE TEN MOST IMPORTANT BELIEFS OF CHRISTIANITY

Monotheism..the Shemaa..Deu 6:4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD:

Jesus Christ.. Son of Gid and Saviour…1Co 3:10 According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.1Co 3:11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.

Virgin birth

Suffering

Holy universal or Catholic Church .

Crucifiction

Resurrection

Judgement

The return of Christ

Eternal Rewards

 

HISTORY OF CHRISTIANITY

HISTORY OF THE CHRISTIAN CHURCH BY Philip Schaff Christianus sum: Christiani nihil a me alienus puto . Published in 2013

Nature of Church History History has two sides, a divine and a human. On the part of God, it is his revelation in the order of time (as the creation is his revelation in the order of space), and the successive unfolding of a plan of infinite wisdom, justice, and mercy, looking to his glory and the eternal happiness of mankind. On the part of man, history is the biography of the human race, and the gradual development, both normal and abnormal, of all its physical, intellectual, and moral forces to the final consummation at the general judgment, with its eternal rewards and punishments.

The history of the church is the rise and progress of the kingdom of heaven upon earth, for the glory of God and the salvation of the world.

In the subjective sense of the word, considered as theological science and art, church history is the faithful and life-like description of the origin and progress of this heavenly kingdom.

From Jesus Christ, since his manifestation in the flesh, an unbroken stream of divine light and life has been and is still flowing, and will continue to flow, in ever-growing volume through the waste of our fallen race; and all that is truly great and good and holy in the annals of church history is due, ultimately, to the impulse of his spirit. He is the fly-wheel in the world’s progress.

THE NINE PERIODS OF CHURCH HISTORY

Thus we have, in all, nine periods of church history, as follows: First Period : The Life of Christ, and the Apostolic church. From the Incarnation to the death of St. John. a.d. 1-100.

Second Period: Christianity under persecution in the Roman empire. From the death of St. John to Constantine, the first Christian emperor. a.d . 100-311.

Third Period: Christianity in union with the Greco-Roman empire, and amidst the storms of the great migration of nations. From Constantine the Great to Pope Gregory I. a.d. 311-590.

Fourth Period : Christianity planted among the Teutonic, Celtic, and Slavonic nations. From Gregory I. to Hildebrand, or Gregory VII. a.d. 590-1049.

Fifth Period: The Church under the papal hierarchy, and the scholastic theology. From Gregory VII. to Boniface VIII. a.d. 1049-1294.

Sixth Period: The decay of medieval Catholicism, and the preparatory movements for the Reformation. From Boniface VIII. to Luther. a.d. 1294-1517.

Seventh Period: The evangelical Reformation, and the Roman Catholic Reaction. From Luther to the Treaty of Westphalia. a.d. 1517-1648.

Eighth Period: The age of polemic orthodoxy and exclusive confessionalism, with reactionary and progressive movements. From the Treaty of Westphalia to the French Revolution. a.d. 1648-1790.

Ninth Period: The spread of infidelity, and the revival of Christianity in Europe and America, with missionary efforts encircling the globe. From the French Revolution to the present time. a.d. 1790-1880. Christianity has thus passed through many stages of its earthly life, and yet has hardly reached the period of full manhood in Christ Jesus. During

WHAT WILL YOUR GENERATION KNOW YOU FOR?

TEXTUAL ANALYSIS OF EPHESIANS 2

The Epistle to the Ephesians is described in F. Bruce as,

‘The letter to the Ephesians has been described, not unjustly, as “the quintessence of Paulinism.”1 It sums up in large measure the leading themes of the Pauline writings, together with the central motif of Paul’s ministry as apostle to the Gentiles. But it does more than that: it carries the thought of the earlier letters forward to a new stage. An even better designation for it than “the quintessence of Paulinism” would be, in C. H. Dodd’s words, “the crown of Paulinism.”2’

According to Charles Hodge, in his commentary on Ephesians, says, ‘Paul’s labours in Ephesus.    In this city, the capital of Asia, renowned through the world for the temple of Diana, and for skill in sorcery and magic, the place of concourse for people from all the surrounding countries, Paul laboured for nearly three years.    After remaining eighteen months in Corinth, at the conclusion of his second missionary tour, he sailed thence to Ephesus in company with Priscilla and Aquila…

…Paul, agreeably to his promise, returned to Ephesus, probably in the fall of the year 54. Here he found certain disciples who had received only John’s baptism, to whom Paul said: ” John verily baptized with the baptism of repentance, saying unto the people, that they should believe on him which should come after him, that is, on Christ Jesus. When they heard this they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus. And when Paul had laid his hands upon them, the Holy Ghost came upon them, and they spake with tongues and prophesied.” Acts 19, 3-6. ‘

The relation between this Epistle and that to the Colossians.    This relation is, in the first place, one of remarkable similarity. This similarity is observable, 1. In the occurrence in both epistles of the same words and forms of expressions. 2. In passages which are identical in thought and language. 3. In passages in which the thought is the same and the expression is varied. 4. In others where the same topic is more fully handled in the one epistle than in the other. 5. In passages in which different topics follow each other in the same order.’

Regeneration, You are Born again.Eph 2:11 Wherefore remember, that ye being in time past Gentiles in the flesh, who are called Uncircumcision by that which is called the Circumcision in the flesh made by hands; see Jhn 3:

Remember your past and be grateful to God and gracious to others Eph 2:12 That at that time ye were without Christ, being aliens from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers from the covenants of promise, having no hope, and without God in the world:

New position, relationship: near yo God. He answers you fast.You are now child ,of God not a slave of Satan. Eph 2:13 But now in Christ Jesus ye who sometimes were far off are made nigh by the blood of Christ.

Christ is now your peace. This is the aspect called propitiation in the economy if salvation, soteriology.Eph 2:14 For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;

Reconciliation. Christ’s crucifixion appeased God.Eph 2:15 Having abolished in his flesh the enmity, even the law of commandments contained in ordinances; for to make in himself of twain one new man, so making peace; Eph 2:16 And that he might reconcile both unto God in one body by the cross, having slain the enmity thereby:Eph 2:17 And came and preached peace to you which were afar off, and to them that were nigh.

Access or way to the Almighty God Eph 2:18 For through him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father.

Now family or commonwealth stakeholder, partakers. Eph 2:19 Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellowcitizens with the saints, and of the household of God;

New divine foundation Eph 2:20 And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief corner stone;

We are now God’s beautiful building, architecture.Eph 2:21 In whom all the building fitly framed together groweth unto an holy temple in the Lord:

Saved by grace Eph 2:8

Eph 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:Eph 2:9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.

AIN: take maximum to heaven. Are you involved in evangelism or follow up?

Illustration:

A Long War

It was about a month ago when a man in Amsterdam felt that he needed to confess, so went to his priest: “Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. During WWII I hid a refugee in my attic.” “Well,” answered the priest, “that’s not a sin.” “But I made him agree to pay me 20 Gulden for every week he stayed.” “I admit that wasn’t good, but you did it for a good cause.” “Oh, thank you, Father; that eases my mind. I have one more question…” “What is that, my son?” “Do I have to tell him the war is over?” From Hillarious Christian Jokes

 

 

The first two chapters of this book introduce the basic Christian repertoire. They set out some key themes of Christian life and thought, and indicate the foundational resources with which Christians work. Since Christianity is shaped around a person, Jesus Christ, Chapter 1 outlines the range of ways in which he has been interpreted, and the crucial role these interpretations play in setting the boundaries of Christian thought.-

At one end of the spectrum, we have forms of Christianity shaped by reverence for higher power. They focus on a God who infinitely transcends the world and human beings and rules over them.

Interpretations of Jesus differ accordingly: for a Christianity of higher power, he is a transcendent being who must be obeyed; whereas for a Christianity of inner power, he is a spiritual being who can inspire, in-Spirit, and divinize human life.

Chapters 3 and 4 trace the ways in which these different tendencies within Christianity played out historically down to the dawn of the modern period. Chapter 3 looks at the two most important historical manifestations of a Christianity of higher power: Church Christianity and Biblical Christianity. Chapter 4 considers the development of more inward-looking forms of Christianity, and discusses Mystical Christianity. Together these chapters suggest that an orientation towards higher power became the dominant mode of Christianity from the 4th century onwards, and that it sought to constrain or co-opt more mystical tendencies.

Outside the West, however, Christianity has experienced much greater success in recent times, as we see in Chapter 6. In much of the southern hemisphere churches have experienced rapid growth since the 1970s, and it is this that has allowed Christianity to retain its status as the world’s largest religion, reaching an estimated two billion adherents in 2000. In many parts of the South, ‘charismatic’ forms of Christianity are flourishing. They combine the clear directives of higher power (the Bible) with the inner empowerment of the Holy Spirit.

Terms and categories It is conventional to analyse Christianity in terms of a set of categories generated by the religion itself: ‘early Church’, ‘Protestant’, ‘Nestorian’, ‘heretical’, and so on. My own study of Christianity over many years, which has involved face-to-face research amongst Christians as well as textual research, has led me to favour a different set of analytical categories (including those of Church, Biblical and Mystical Christianity). Since this is an introductory book, I have tried to strike a balance between introducing my own terms and categories and employing more conventional ones. The intention is to offer the reader a fresh perspective on Christianity, whilst indicating how this relates to approaches with which he or she may already be

 

Christianity, A very short Introduction, Linda Woodhead.

 

History

 

2. Contents of Christianity

Foundation. 1 Cor 3:11.The pastor who after the California earthquake, saw only one window broken but later was told the church building uninhabitable: the foundation had shifted under it.

Cornerstone is Christ

3. Jesus centered Jhn 15:5.

Deity of Christ

The infallibility of the Gospel

The views sacraments divided the Roman Catholic Church versus the evangelical.

4.The place of the Word

The word is God

Preach the Word…All of this explains why Paul encouraged his young associate Timothy to “preach the Word” (2 Tim. 4:2). Preach means “to cry out, herald, or exhort.” Preachers should pour out the message with passion and fervor in order to stir souls. Not all passionate pleading from a pulpit, however, possesses divine authority. When..Biblical Preaching, The development and delivery of Expository Message…2001, 2014 by Haddon W. Robinson

5. Fauture. Jhn 3:16; 14:13,6

6.Worship. The NT gives us the glimpse of heaven: the 4 elders, the saints in worship.Rev 5:1224

All Christians must have hunger of God.

Worship originally was, ‘worth-ship, i.e., to assign worth, honour to God. That is the primary purpose of going to church, not just fellowship.

The three aspects of worship:

Olfactory or smell, sweet smell or of our

Taste…taste and see the Zlord is hood..the Holy Communionion

Touch, laying of hand, Matt 8:13. The number made laying of hand impracticable, hence the use of raising of hand at the congregation

 

A New Type of Christianity BY E.W. KENYON

Discerning men and women have been asking for a new type of Christianity. They do not want a new philosophy or a new metaphysical concept of Christ, but an unveiling of the reality that was seen in Jesus in His earth walk. We have looked back for it, but it is not in the past. The early Church did not have the thing for which hearts are craving.

 

They did not know that they were New Creations, however. They had first-hand Sense Knowledge evidence of everything that took place. They did not know that they were the righteousness of God in Christ. They had marvelous experiences but did not know what caused it.

What is This New Thing? It is the New Man created in Christ Jesus. II Cor. 5:17: “Wherefore, if any man is in Christ there is a New Creation.” This new man will be like Christ. Eph. 2:10: “We are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus.” In his love-life he carries the solution of the human problem. He will bring God to the earth again. He will live and walk as Jesus lived and walked among men. Here are some striking facts about this

 

New Creation man.

light.” (Literal translation.) We are Redeemed “Who delivered us out of the authority of darkness and translated us into the kingdom of the son of his love; in whom we have our redemption, the remission of our sins.” Col 1-13,14. We have been delivered out of the authority of Satan. Satan no longer has a right to rule over us.

Equipped of God This New Creation, this new type of Christianity, is equipped of God for a supernatural life. God furnishes the equipment. In Ephesians 6:11 He says: “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the cunning artifices of the adversary. For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenlies.”

Equipped of God This New Creation, this new type of Christianity, is equipped of God for a supernatural life. God furnishes the equipment. In Ephesians 6:11 He says: “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the cunning artifices of the adversary. For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenlies.”

Spiritual Forces Stronger than Physical God is a Spirit.

Our sufficiency is of God.II Cor. 3:5-6: “Not

Two kinds of wisdom: from above and that below.

 

Building

Foundation

Blocks

Beauty

 

HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE – DUTIES OF SUCCESSFUL CHRISTIAN HUSBANDS

LECTURE AT PROVINCIAL MINISTERS’ THIRD QUARTER RETREAT AT  RCCG JESUS HOUSE, JERICHO, COTONOU ON FRIDAY 25/9/15-LAWRENCE OLUFEMI OBISAKIN, Ph.D

Texts: Gen 2:7;18; 1 Tim 3:1-7

Introit:
1Ti 3:2  A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
BE

Protocol. Thank  the organizers for inviting humble me. It is a great grace to impart on the Lord’s shepherd.

Introduction
FAMILY IS IT!
·    The family is an institution created by God for the wellbeing of humankind. We were created as a family by God in Gen 2:18. God grouped us in family. Num 1:2  Take ye the sum of all the congregation of the children of Israel, after their families, by the house of their fathers, with the number of their names, every male by their polls;
·    A good home is a criterion for Leadership position in the Church
·    Note, about 80 to 90% of church conflicts are centered around pastors irvtheur spouses or family. So watch carefully your family.Charity begins at home. Read, 1Ti 3:4  One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;1Ti 3:5  (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
·    As pastors and ministers, you need grace so that while you watch over other people’s family, your own family may not be torn asunder by spiritual sbd oval Hawks. 1Co 9:27  But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
The word ,’family’ according to Webster dictionary is, Origin: Middle English familie, from Latin familia household (including servants as well as kin of the householder), from famulus servant.qFirst use: 15th century It is from Latin, ‘famula’ servant, service, extended relationship.: a group of people who are related to each other : a person’s children: a group of related people including people who lived in the past.

BASIC MANUAL FOR PROPER HANDLING.
Some tips on your spouse:
·    She needs your assurance, encouragement and protection..be broad minded. Ex 2:16-22.Moses got a wife because of gallantry
·    Your understanding as her head and main support.
·    She needs your words and touch of care,daily.I prescribe you touch your wife and also compliment her daily.

Mystery of matrimonial or conjugal union, thus:
we were created male and female.Gen 1:27  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Wayne Grudem in his Systematic theology says this on creation of human beings make and female as image of God,
‘The creation of man as male and female shows God’s image in (1) harmonious interpersonal relationships, (2) equality in personhood and importance, and (3) difference in role and authority.’Man As Male and Female Why did God create two sexes? Can men and women be equal and yet have different roles? EXPLANATION AND SCRIPTURAL BASIS.W. Grudem, ch 22.

·     A husband…leader of a home . You have committed matrimony..monogamy..1 Tim 3:2,12;Tit 1:6 depart from parents. Not negligence but be joined to your wife.  Gen 2:23  And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
MYSTRY OF CONJUGAL OR MATRIMONIAL UNION..Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
MARRIAGE IS A CHANGE OF SOCIAL AND SPIRITUAL STATUS.
·    It is about team work, in her book, THE BIBLE ON LEADERSHIP, From Moses to Matthew, Lorine Woolfe…. says:
‘BIBLICAL LESSONS ON TEAM DEVELOPMENT A team is a group of individuals who may have different needs but are pursuing a common, unifying goal. An effective team is more than the sum of its parts; an ineffective team achieves less than individuals working on their own might have. Acknowledge the unique talents and motivation of each team member. A carefully selected team with complementary strengths outperforms a collection of talented individuals who are competing to be the “star.”’

·    A strong leader is empowered, not threatened, by selecting strong team members. Remind each team member how his actions contribute to group goals. Remind team members that even the most powerful, competent leader can’t do it alone and that you need their help. Actively reward team-oriented actions and attitudes.
·    Never underrate your wife, she is your helper… She us full of initiatives… But you must nourish her, encourage her

Gen 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Mat 19:5  And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?Mat 19:6  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
John Gill interprets this mystery thus:
‘Therefore shall a man leave his father, and his mother,…. These are thought by some to be the words of Moses, inferring from the above fact, what ought to be among men; and by others, the words of Adam under divine inspiration, as the father of mankind instructing his sons what to do, and foretelling what would be done in all succeeding ages: though they rather seem to be the words of God himself, by whom marriage was now instituted; and who here gives direction about it, and declares the case and circumstance of man upon it, and how he would and should behave: and thus our Lord Jesus Christ, quoting these words, makes them to be the words of him that made man, male and female, and supplies and prefaces them thus, and said, “for this cause”, &c. Mat 19:5 so Jarchi paraphrases them,”the Holy Ghost said so:”not that a man upon his marriage is to drop his affections to his parents, or be remiss in his obedience to them, honour of them, and esteem for then, or to neglect the care of them, if they stand in need of his assistance; but that he should depart from his father’s house, and no more dwell with him, or bed and board in his house; but having taken a wife to himself, should provide an habitation for him and her to dwell together: so all the three Targums interpret it, of quitting “the house of his father, and his mother’s bed”:and shall cleave unto his wife; with a cordial affection, taking care of her, nourishing and cherishing her, providing all things comfortable for her, continuing to live with her, and not depart from her as long as they live: the phrase is expressive of the near union by marriage between man and wife; they are, as it were, glued together, and make but one; which is more fully and strongly expressed in the next clause:..
…and they shall be one flesh; that is, “they two”, the man and his wife, as it is supplied and interpreted by Christ, Mat 19:5 and so here in the Targum of Jonathan, and in the Septuagint and Samaritan versions: the union between them is so close, as if they were but one person, one soul, one body; and which is to be observed against polygamy, unlawful divorces, and all uncleanness, fornication, and adultery: only one man and one woman, being joined in lawful wedlock, have a right of copulation with each other, in order to produce a legitimate offspring, partaking of the same one flesh, as children do of their parents, without being able to distinguish the flesh of the one from the other, they partake of: and from hence it appears to be a fabulous notion, that Cecrops, the first king of Athens, was the first institutor of matrimony and joiner of one man to one woman…’
·    There is a family in heaven;Eph 3:14  For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, Eph 3:15  Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named,

Structure of a family.

1.    Husband is the head…1Co 11:3  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.He is the chief mentor, the role model and the  chief disciplinarian .lk 4:23
2.    He is to love his wife as Christ loves the  Church, nurture and defend the family,  as in, Eph 5:26  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,Eph 5:27  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
3.    Human authority in the home  starts with him
4.    He is accountable to God for the spiritual and emotional wellbeing of the wife . Lessons from the cock and his wife the  hen. He prepares the nest, defends her when sitting on eggs and nurtures the family
5.    He must be faithful to the wife,my ever deal treacherously with the wife of his youth- generally, he cannot divorce his wife- Mal 2:14.
6.    He must be spiritual, prayerful and be full of faith. He must trust the lord for ivine enablement..carry out his responsibilities without failure. God whom he represents is able to help him and
Sustain him till the end. Jud 1:24  Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
7. husband is the spiritual head and leads daily family devotion
He is to work hard and provide for his family..get a professional status to facilitate bread winning responsibility. See, Ecc 10:10  If the iron be blunt, and he do not whet the edge, then must he put to more strength: but wisdom is profitable to direct.
‘I have found that concerning marriage, it doesn’t matter how many years you have accrued, none of us can ever become an authority or an expert in marriage because it takes us knowing God’s truth about the matter and ultimately, submitting ourselves to his Word. But, most of all, it takes two people simply becoming one in agreement and not three or four women to one man to establish a Godly marriage’…,Cynthia McGee…Husband of one wife
You were created first…
Head of your wife:
Lead her well…1Co 9:5  Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?
ROLE AND RESPONSIBILITY OF THE HUSBAND.
Created in God’s image and  likeness …Gen 1:26  And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.Gen 1:27  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
he is the husband, first person, head of the family- his wife and children. The head in creatures serves as:
·    Identity
·    seat of the Brain,soul
·    Vision..he is the teacher,the chief coach…raising leader…delight in seeing your wife, children and your mentorees blossom.
·    Biological.emotions is human..
·    Sexual responsibility..it is the icing on the cake if newly wed. irreplaceable…you should mutually agree on the rate, time and place as you age…libido wanes with age..
1Co 7:5  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
and spiritual maturity…marriage is for adult
·    Financial maturity

A Christian husband

Spiritual responsibilities?
·    Love your wife…Eph 5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
·    Be sympathetic. All human beings display their bruises and expect sympathy
·    Patience.Some things are processes not just actions; child conception, birth, weaning, education through life circle.
·    Wisdom
·    courage…The Bible is replete with heroes and leaders who exhibit many kinds of courage: physical, political, and moral. The prototype, of course, is David, the shepherd boy confronting a heavily armored, battle-hardened giant, and who proclaimed to King Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.” (1 Sam. 17:32) Queen Esther risked her privileged position in the royal palace (and her very life) to save her people from extinction.
·    Sacrificial. That is the platform on which the duties of a husband stands. You, as chief host  should be served last may be except on your birthday on rare occasions. Jhn 15:13

Errors to avoid of Bad husbands’ moves
·    Abraham taking a second wife in Hagar for a child. In Gen 30:1-5, Jacob committed an error of wife leading
·    Solomon bowed to the gods of his wives…1Ki 11:3  And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.1Ki 11:4  For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.
·    Samuel was a great prophet, but was  bad parent…Sa 8:3  And his sons walked not in his ways, but turned aside after lucre, and took bribes, and perverted judgment.
·    Ahab and Jezebel-1 Kg 21:25
·    Ananias and Saphira in Acts 5:1-11.

Good husbands
·    Be the head. Think deeply. Plan, organize,coordinate, command and control. Gen 30:30.
·    Love. It is a command. See, Eph 5:26-27
·    Be the chief priest
·    Captain your ship. Have a good sense of direction..
·    Honesty and Integrity “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. ” —PROV. 24:26   “Judge me, O Lord, according to my … integrity.” —Ps. 7:8   God’s honest truth. Actions that back up the words and words that are congruent with the actions. People of integrity and honesty. People we can trust. That’s what we look for in our leaders.
Samuel didn’t passively respond or react to an investigation of his possessions. He initiated it himself! He invited investigation of his honesty and integrity, down to the last ox and donkey, promising to return anything that might have been immorally appropriated, no matter how insignificant.
This type of integrity runs throughout the Old and New Testaments. Consider the farewell speech of the disciple Paul to his followers:Acts 20:32-37
Prayers:
1.    For  repentance as a careless driver
2.    Make me love my wife
3.    Grace to be a great mentor
4.    A sacrificial leader/ Shepherd as Christ…Joh 10:11  I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep., Joh 10:12  But he that is an hireling, and not the shepherd, whose own the sheep are not, seeth the wolf coming, and leaveth the sheep, and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them, and scattereth the sheep., Joh 10:13  The hireling fleeth, because he is an hireling, and careth not for the sheep.’Joh 10:14  I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine.
5.    Let my family jot become a hindrance to the Lord.
6.    Lord, guard, guide and sustain Christian homes.